I have attended other Christian churches enough to realize why it is much less likely that they have painful mothers day talks. It isn't in every country so I don't know why it has to be in just a few. In this case it will likely be mothers, and the Primary kids will sing, too. If my kids are with me on MD I go, but FD is just too painful. I have suggested the donate-money-to-the-shelter thing for about four years now; it gets a blank stare, followed by a startled, oh! Now we have a tradition that during the last ten minutes of priesthood meeting, they gather all the classes from deacons to high priests together in the multi-purpose room and present them with Fat Boy ice cream sandwiches. Thats what insulin is for. "I am a sociopathic perverted mess emotionally and mentally thanks to the influence of my insane codependent mother.'". Which also makes me wonder about why we Americans dont recognize International Womens Day. Yes! One thing I would add is that somehow we need to stop telling LDS women that they need to do everything in 6 days and 90% income with smiles on their faces and do it better than their non-LDS peers. I am glad you had a good father, but honestly, that attitude is what keeps me away. I would be totally okay if they did nothing for Mothers Day at church. But one thing is for sure, Ill be drawing on much of this. It is not that women want to be from Venus, but they want to be from Venus five universes beyond our own. Have a young child, a teenager, husband and elderly father take you through the different phases of motherhood in their own point of view. Mothers Day was open so I said ok, I will come up with something appropriate. MD is a day I prefer to play hookey, especially now that my mother is currently lost in alzheimers disease. Based on the comments it seems to be prevalent everywhere in the US church. Very useful counsel, Mark. anon, pretty sure hearing about an old guys non-existent sex life is worse. I must speak the loving word, Sadly, though, it probably caused a lot of pain to the listeners. Thats the last thing a mother needs, responsibility for yet another living thing. lol! Which meeting do you think would be more meaningful to the participants? I cant quite get them right and they would certainly be expunged by the moderators anyway. What does that say about us as a people? Oh, and my husband is speaking in our ward this Mothers Day. Feelings of guilt, shame, loneliness, anger, disappointment, abandonment, and not measuring up to impossible expectations are prevalent. For the third verse, I composed a counterpoint for the choir to sing while the kids sang the melody. Variations included a verse for when mommy comes home stoned, with descriptions of bratty violent Mormon children and a terrible version only whispered with stifled giggles including titillating, lolita overtones. Could someone remind of what the day is for after all? I've done this in past years but always enjoy the new ideas from the participants here As I plan our Mother's Day Sacrament Meeting, what have been your favorite talk topics for Mother's Day? In the same way, when we make a dramatic production of Mothers Day, I fear that we are sometimestrying to compensate for the way we devalue the real and important work they do on the other 364 days of the year. So no one is left out. It is as if we cannot celebrate anything because if we focus on single day to celebrate one person then we have decimated everyone else. Ive decided to see if I can discern consistent reasons why the good ones are good and the bad ones are terrible. Sacrament meeting is a time for us to renew our covenants, it is a sacred ordinance. It defines our very identity, our divine stature and nature, and the unique traits our Father gave us.. Mother's Day became the hardest day of the year for me. If they give out a plant that I can put in the ground, Ill be sad to miss that, though. I have been avoiding the mother's day sacrament meeting for the last couple of years. This past Mother's Day we arrived late to sacrament meeting due to a cobbling mishap in the morning. Although Mothers Day is not fraught for me the way it is for so many, I will be watching with interest next Sunday to see which way our meeitng falls. The broken bread is a reminder of His body and His physical sufferingespecially His suffering on the cross. Latter-day Saints to Attend Sacrament Meeting Only on Christmas Day Church Newsroom November 10, 2022 Church The First Presidency of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints has. The Barker Brothers' Projects These videos were created for Latter-day Saint parents and allies to voice their love for their LGBT brothers and sisters, sons and daughters. Yea like all of you My Mother sucked too. When He instituted the sacrament, Jesus Christ said, This is my body which is given for you: this do in remembrance of me. Deep gratitde is owed to our Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ for the Atonement which allows us each to recover from any missteps, no matter how far off the path one may stray. My best friend (unmarried, childless at 51) has been asked to speak. Snickers. What do you think should be handed out for Mothers Day? By I spoke one Mothers Day about Eve and Mary, and thought it was a good talk and well-received. I think its the best way to go. I was honored to have known her, and to have been able to claim her as my own. Let's apply your logic standard to other holidays. 30 Inspiring LDS Quotes About Mothers & Motherhood, Church Leaders Honor Mothers Over the Holiday Weekend, Church Releases Tribute to Mothers, You Are Enough, FREE Happy Mothers Day Coloring Page Printable, The Family is a Divine Blessing | 6 March 2023, Come Follow Me Recap Thy Faith Hath Saved Thee | 5 March 2023, Miracles Come Through Fasting | 4 March 2023, Young Latter-day Saint Missionary Passes Away in Georgia, 5 Things You Didnt Know About the Day the LDS Church Was Organized. I love your idea of wearing different color of flowers. I have heard good talks and bad talks, and really dislike the sacralizing of the universal and perfectly average activity of mothering. I didnt enjoy Mothers Day during my years of infertility, but Ive been surprised that I enjoy it even less now that I have children. Yet, we have a tendency to go to extremes, particularly culturally, forgetting that we are worshiping God, and that we are not God nor expected to be God in this, our mortal state. He suffered for the sins, sorrows, and pains of all people, providing remission of sins for those who repent and live the gospel (see 2Nephi 9:2123). This cup is the new testament in my blood, which is shed for you (Luke 22:1920). Have all the talks be by women. Thats the last thing a mother needs, responsibility for yet another living thing. Uchtdorf. My own father would probably appreciate a plant, but fortunately he enjoys cookies too. I was supposed to talk two weeks ago on the purpose of the Sacrament but ended up in surgery instead, and upon returning to church last Sunday was asked to reschedule. document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); Your email address will not be published. Never heard it, but I would love somethingalong the lines ofwhat we can learn from Christ and his time with women. Actually now that I do have children, the primary song Im so glad when Daddy comes home has taken on a new meaning for me. This blog post is the result of my musing. Alece 100 it is a bit rich for you to interpret that your comment and that quote by Lewis mean the same thing. Examples? I love her and think she did a great job with the limited resources she had. Just plant a tree and name it after our mothers! As always, Kurt, I was happy to give you a hand with this! The rest of us mortals should stick with real. I love that song but our ward music coordinator has musical numbers lined up already. So be kind to her. I cant remember the last time I heard a bad sacrament meeting talk, period. Uchtdorf. I figure maybe in the next life I will be someones Heavenly Mother. Im sure that attendance in RS would be higher on that day though. Thanks for thinking of me, my youngest bishop son! I found out the hard way after a long list of them declined to give the talk. Ere the sun goes down. It will easily demonstrate the weaknesses in the position: The logic is faulty. And Im batting clean up. Geesh! But I certainly enjoyed the beauty of the whole situation and was very glad to see so many young peole in the Church on Sunday. Being there with my son was very nice. Again, its about building testimony and gaining faith. The bad ones tend to deal withthe big generalities, praisingmotherhood without even pausing to define whether we are speaking of women who have given birth, or womanhood in general. In the garden He said, My soul is exceeding sorrowful, even unto death (Matthew 26:38). It was given by one of my high school friends. I dont remember all 18 things, but two of them stuck with me, even 15 years later. Aleah is a graduate of Southern Virginia University, where she studied English, Creative Writing, and Dance. That in no way shape or form precludes me from looking to Christ/HF/HM for ideals. Another angle in this specific holidayhas been brewing for a while. No fuss, no muss. I have not attending other churches that have mothers day services aimed at mothers. Honestly, considering how touchy this subject is (women w/out kids, abusive moms, separated/divorced men who don't want to be, moms who've passed, etc), I'd focus on Womanhood. She talked about how her convert mother negotiated church attendance with her inactive husband, how she brought the gospel into the home to the extent she could while maintaining close family ties and coping with her own faith struggles, and how her example and choices blessed her home. The average of the survey said their bishopric probably spends about $1 per sister for Mothers Day gifts. Im amazed that we arent using the most recent conference materials . I get really tired of hearing the stripling warrior passages on Mother's Day. I went to Sac. LDS Hymn Arrangements. Talking to other grownups while nice doesnt belong in 3rd hour. Some women think that you dont talk enough about mothers while other people think you talk too much about them. We've gathered five inspiring gifts for Latter-day Saint women to help them feel cherished and celebrated. Regular G.A.S. We are confabbing about how to turn the tables on Hallmark. She loved us unconditionally heart and soul. Plus, I thought it was extra cool that the Bish consulted the RS pres. Ere the sun goes down. 2 women spoke about motherhood. Evry cry of pity heeding, I may have to borrow that. If you want to hear from real women who haveread scriptures andheld FHEand family prayer, but whose son is in jail or whose 16-year-old daughter is pregnant or whose husband has left her, then you should meet in the cultural hall. Next, it is always very specific so as to not offend anyone. Most seemed to realize bishoprics are trying and they appreciate any effort. There is a *big* difference a HUGE difference between being *foreordained* to something and actually **BEING** something, as is made very clear in the temple. Too much idealism masks reality and can quickly become propaganda and lies. Thanks. me) before deciding on these speakers. Its impossible to please everyone. Really? In this talk, Elder Holland focuses on three different experiences that reflect the majestic influence of mothers. The first is a cautionary tale, where a friend who was drifting away from the Church expressed he could not stand the thought of facing his deceased mother. We should not celebrate anything unless it is universally acknowledged around the world. I do think a lot of Mormon women enjoy talks that validate their efforts at motherhood, and I think some of these talks get interpreted as angel mother talks when theyre really not. That cost a war pension. For the injured interceding, My mother was an ideal, and she is schizophrenic, couldnt cook water without burning the pan, never cleaned a thing in the house while we were children, had rebellious to some degree or another, etc. 3. I have no aversion to motherhood being spoken of in church. Im also a High Councilor, who always tries very much not to speak in rose-colored platitudes that, sadly, you associate with High Council speakers. And I did use some of the suggestions here. For those who disagreed with my thoughts (above) about our needing ideals to aim at in our lives, I fell upon a quote from C.S. Thanks for reminding me so I can stay home. Why in the church is there such a strong, almost secular aversion to motherhood? What does it mean when we want to remove motherhood from Mother's Day? Have You Discovered the Love of The Everyday Christ? Mothers Day gifts at church should be like free t-shirt day at the baseball game. The perfect sacrament meeting talk? Thats why youve been my cyber-crush for years. So for over a decade, Ive loved Mothers Day, just because I know it wont end with all of us crying. It would just be nice to complete our idealism with a good dose of reality. I agree with the chocolate, lack of talks, and the third hour refreshments! Up til now, I have endured going because I thought I had to. Mormon women are harder on themselves than any other group of ladies I have associated with. I think its terribly sad that growing up Mormon, I never heard anyone make any serious attempt to talk about Heavenly Mother on Mothers Day. Beware the philosophies of Hallmark, mingled with scripture. lol. And home teachers were not comfortable giving flowers or candy to a single sister. . I dont think sacrament meeting is such an inappropriate place to do that, either. Disciples of Christ know what they want and there is not need to celebrate Christmas in front of others that are not faithful. A break from the primary room!) On this site you will find a variety of arrangements for ward choirs, solo piano, vocal duets and more. Especially for those women that aren't mothersbut, a big but, these women are mothers to villages, pets, and extended family all the time! Not using individual's names, I told stories of selfless service performed by sisters in our ward that I had observed during my time as bishop. On Sunday Morning my sister and I drove almost 2 hours each way to go visit my maternal grandmothers grave. And dont even get me started on the Are We Not All Mothers tripe. Index to the Triple Combination, Sacrament, Jesus Christ Teaches about the Sacrament and Prayer, AaronL. West, Little Children and the Sacrament, Ensign, October 2016, Line upon Line: Matthew 26:2628, New Era, October 2016, Questions & Answers: What am I supposed to think about during the sacrament? 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Today the sacrament is an ordinance in which Church members partake of bread and water in remembrance of Jesus Christ's atoning sacrifice. 34 Ideas for LDS Sacrament Meeting Talks When People Don't Apologize: Forgiving and finding reconciliation with God Would borrow from Forgiveness + Tribulation, a talk I gave fall 2019. Best Mother's Day Topics, Scriptures, Conference Talks, Etc. Just a question here, since I am new to this blog. They may have services on Holy Mother Mary but then again, she left her son behind in Jerusalem and didnt even notice she had forgotten him for quite some time before going back to look for him so not sure about her mothering skills ;)). Men tended to speak about angel mothers who bore no resemblance to mine. Said she, If you havent convinced your mother that you love her the other 364 days of the year, nothing you say on Mothers Day is worth a damn.. Should we have days for every type of individual? My own dear mother, long since gone to her reward, summed up the essence of the perfect Mothers Day talk quite nicely. In honor of Earth Day, you could throw in the topic of Mother Nature also! Im thankful for ideals even when I dont measure up not even often let alone all the time. Usually chocolate, a plant or flower. Primary kids sang Im so glad when Mommy comes home refreshing change. Aim at heaven and you will get earth thrown in. Why is that or is that just in my ward? I am confident that a poll ofactive Mormons would show that Mothers Day sacrament meeting is, hands down, the one meeting of the year most fraught with difficulty for the people who attend. It is the essence of who we are as women. Well, I wont bore you with all the mediocre talks over the years, I will just tell you that the best song for MD from the primary children was Armies of Helaman. Id really love to see the fathers acknowledged on Fathers Day. Since I believe he (the Father) and my Heavenly Mother are probably equals, Id say we know a lot about her as well! Im asking this out of genuine curiosity/responsibility for handing stuff out. I did live in one ward where the mothers always got plants but the fathers always got cookies. Mtg. Fun Photos of Latter-day Saint Leaders in the Snow! It is also a reminder that through His mercy and grace, all people will be resurrected and given the opportunity for eternal life with God. Because I know the real story so it is distracting from the fake one that they are giving. 41 Fear not, little children, for you are mine, and I have overcome the world, and you are of them that my Father hath given me; 42 And none of them that my Father hath given me shall be lost.. Ive never objected to any Mothers Day program, and in my ward, all women get a gift, married, single, divorced, widowed, with or without children. It is Mother's Day and yet the day is supposed to about everything about women EXCEPT being a mother. I dont envy you people who have been called togive talksnext week. Then it gives them the option to (1) print traditional paper programs, or (2) give members access to a digital version of the program on their phones. Thanks for the reminder. I miss her something terrible, and being at the grave-site really brought all of those emotions to the surface. Being Both a Disciple & a Daughter: Balancing Formality in Prayer. I actually think its good to celebrate both Mothers and Fathers Days with the caveat to be sensitive to the feelings of those who have difficulty with that celebration. I think Emma and Naomi are very neglected women in our teachings (understatement considering the general neglect). More importantly, what impact does this conscious attempt to devalue motherhood within our community have on the future of the family? Their talks often included poems about the immeasurable amount of crap mothers had to deal with. Just asking. To be fair, diabetics can eat chocolate. I actually gave two sacrament meeting talks on Mothers Day during our childless/infertile years. #109 Rayloved the roller coaster quote on motherhood. Im even okay when they hand out plants. Diversity and Unity in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, Environmental Stewardship and Conservation, Joseph Smiths Teachings about Priesthood, Temple, and Women, Peace and Violence among 19th-Century Latter-day Saints, The Manifesto and the End of Plural Marriage, Translation and Historicity of the Book of Abraham. Somehow those who are not mothers are incapable of celebrating motherhood and thus it is painful for them and thus no one should celebrate motherhood as a church. Latter-day Saint Life. She has your best interests at heart. I'd had a challenging morning, but somehow, my 3-year-old-daughter was decked out and ready for church on time. Last year we did two songs for the Mother's Day sacrament meeting, and they turned out beautifully, so I thought I would share them with you. The only thing I might try if I were in charge would be to put out pink, white, red carnations and safety pins and invite everyone in the ward to wear a carnation to honor their mother pink/red if shes living, white if shes passed away. Required fields are marked *. Since my mom has unacknowledged mental health issues, this is my oldest sister and a lady in L.A. who I still keep in contact with. Home & Family. Then the clincher, it is only for women to celebrate and they need to be left alone to celebrate it as they demand and see fit. But I realize others prefer plants. Gag. Think about your message and how it will sound to the entire spectrum of your sisters in the ward. Needless to say he was not asked to speak in sacrament meeting for a long, long time. Gospel Q&A: How Can I Find and Foster Celestial Love? Love your mother, my young sisters. It spoke to the special importance of mothers to their children, but also made clear that as with other mistakes, the effects of mothers failings can absolutely be healed by the Atonement. ( Bonus: You get to visit Relief Society and YW! I asked a mother and daughter to sing the main lines, and then I had the . Loverboy was gone, she was outside of the church, and she had no means of support. Too often folks with food allergies, diabetes, and similar challenges are left feeling like second class saints in our food-laden church culture. I didnt realize Mothers Day was so close. Our new bishop, for the last three years, gave no gift or acknowledgement. Most seemed to realize bishoprics are trying and they appreciate any effort. You can guess how well that went over. I haven't a clue about how to interact at times. Our head count was 85 sisters which is super for us. Also waiting by the library's tiny window with the Dutch door was a . The second is about a mother who diligently loved her son as he struggled with same-sex attraction and labored him through his despair. The good talks that I have heard tend toaddressthe details ofan individual womans life, in all its messiness and particularity.
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